自信源於懂得感恩 (Confidence Begins With Gratitude)
- Ms. Liz
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每逢十二月，臨近聖誕，我都會不自覺地放慢少少步伐。唔係因為呢個月特別清閒——其實通常更加忙碌——而係呢個季節本身會令人想回望一下。今年發生咗乜、孩子成長咗乜、我哋又學咗乜。作為父母，我發現自己有個習慣：好多時會先睇到孩子「未夠好」嘅地方，而忽略咗佢哋已經做得好嘅部分。
或者你都有同樣感覺。
我哋望住子女，往往會好快見到需要改善嘅位——寫作可以更清晰、閱讀可以更流暢、專注力可以更穩定。關心係出發點，改善係目的，但呢種「先見不足」嘅習慣，有時會令我哋忘記：自信唔係由「差少少」嘅地方建立，而係由「已經存在」嘅能力同進步累積而成。
而感恩，正正係呢個視角嘅開始。
唔係節日式嘅「講聲多謝」，唔係列一張清單，而係一種態度——一種睇嘢嘅方式。
感恩係從「唔夠好」轉為「正在變好」。
努力未必完美，但係真心可見。
進步未必響亮，但係確確實實喺度。
記住身邊那些被我們習慣咗、甚至忽略咗的支撐；對另一啲人嚟講，可能已經係幸福本身。
感恩唔係叫人逃避困難，
而係唔好忽視已有嘅力量與進步。
而呢種態度本身已經係一種力量。
一個懂得感恩嘅孩子，會自然變得更有自信——唔係因為佢哋表現得更大膽，而係因為佢哋對自己有更清晰嘅認知：
佢哋知道自己擁有啲咩，
佢哋知道可以從邊度開始提升，
改善變得可行，
而唔再令人不知所措。
早前喺細女嘅家長會，我深深感受到呢件事。學校會將每位學生嘅功課擺喺自己張枱上——冇排名、冇比較、冇對照表格。家長只需要搵返自己子女嘅枱，逐份功課睇。每一個學期，我同細女一齊睇佢嘅作品時，都會有一樣嘅感覺：原來佢進步咗咁多。
平日我喺屋企多數先見到錯處，但當一整個學期嘅功課攤開喺眼前，由佢親口解釋每一份作品嘅意思，我見到嘅反而係佢嘅成長——思考變深咗、字跡穩定咗、做功課嘅態度亦比以前沉實咗。
呢啲都同其他小朋友無關。
每個孩子都有自己嘅速度、自己嘅強項、自己嘅起點。
嗰一刻，我只係見到：佢比上個學期嘅自己更進步。
而感恩就係喺呢度出現。
唔係來自完美—— 而係來自「原來佢已經提升咗唔少」。
當我哋以呢個角度看待孩子，需要努力嘅地方唔再係缺陷，而係可以一齊逐步提升嘅部分。唔需要一夜變好，只要今日比尋日多5%、10%，已經係進步。如果已經做得好，就再鞏固多啲。呢啲都係一個團隊合作嘅過程——建立喺理解與信任之上，而唔係壓力。
而聖誕，正正係每年提醒我哋呢件事嘅時刻。
喺英國，傳統嘅聖誕唔係商業化、唔係完美派對，而係一家人聚在一起、欣賞彼此、放慢節奏、回望一年——一份屬於每個家庭嘅「靜下來」。呢份寧靜令我哋有空間去看清楚：身邊有啲咩正在變好、有啲咩值得珍惜、有啲咩係我哋成日忽略但一直存在。
一年之中，我哋可能好多時都唔記得感恩。
呢個係人性。生活實在太快。
但至少每年有一次，聖誕會提醒我哋重新睇一睇——
睇吓孩子嘅亮點、自己嘅努力、以及默默進行緊嘅成長。
每一年，我哋都可以更懂得感恩多一點點。
更踏實。
更有信心。
更容易睇到隱藏開嘅進步。
感恩唔係叫人停下來，
而係讓我哋喺更穩定嘅地方重新出發。
當我哋知道自己已經擁有啲咩，
自信就會自然生長。
自信真正嘅起點， 源於懂得感恩。
喺 Mud Pies，我哋幫小朋友建立英語自信，學識真誠表達自己。
自信為先，然後表達自然就會跟上。
以下三條短片延伸今個月嘅主題，讓小朋友可以喺生活中慢慢建立語言自信：
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Confidence Begins With Gratitude
Every December, as Christmas approaches, I find myself slowing down a little. Not because the month is quieter—if anything, it’s usually the busiest—but because something in the season makes me look back. I think about my students, my own children, and the year we’ve just travelled through. And like many parents, I notice a pattern in myself: I often see what isn’t good enough before I see what is.
Maybe you do this too.
We look at our children and quickly spot the part that needs improvement—writing that could be clearer, reading that could be smoother, focus that could be steadier. We mean well. We want to help. But sometimes this way of seeing makes us forget something essential: confidence doesn’t grow from staring at the gap. Confidence grows from recognising what is already here.
This is where gratitude comes in—not as a holiday list or polite “thank you,” but as an attitude. A way of seeing more clearly.
Gratitude is the quiet shift from “not enough” to “becoming.”
It’s the awareness of effort behind imperfect outcomes.
It’s noticing progress that isn’t loud, but real.
It’s remembering that what we sometimes take for granted is something many others would celebrate.
Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring challenges.
It simply means we don’t overlook the good that is already present.
And this attitude has power.
A grateful child is naturally more confident—not because they act bold, but because they see themselves from a grounded place. They understand they have something to build from. Improvement feels possible, not overwhelming.
I felt this deeply during my younger daughter’s parent meeting earlier this year. At her school, they lay out each child’s work on their own table—no rankings, no comparisons, no charts. Parents look through their own child’s work, piece by piece. Every term, when we find our daughter’s table, I feel the same quiet surprise: I hadn’t realised how much she had grown.
Day by day, I often notice mistakes first. But seeing a whole term of work together, as she proudly explained each part, I saw her progress clearly—her ideas becoming fuller, her handwriting steadier, her confidence blooming quietly in the background. It wasn’t about how other children were doing. Every child has different strengths, different starting points. It was simply her, compared to her old self. What she could now do that she couldn’t last term.
And that is where the gratitude came in.
Not from perfection—
but from progress.
From seeing what I had overlooked.
From realising how far she had actually come.
And from that gratitude came a gentle, steady confidence—hers, and mine.
When we view our children this way, the areas that need work don’t feel like failures. They feel like opportunities. If something isn’t strong yet, we can improve it—5%, 10%, little by little. If something is already strong, we can deepen it. And we do all of this together, not from pressure, but from awareness.
Christmas reminds me of this every year.
Before it became commercial and noisy, Christmas in the UK was simply a time of slowing down, gathering with the people who matter, appreciating the support around us, and noticing the small blessings that carried us through the year. It was a natural invitation to reflect—and reflection is the doorway to gratitude.
Maybe we forget gratitude most of the year.
That’s human. Life moves quickly.
But at least once a year, Christmas reminds us to look again—to see what is right, what is growing, what is steady. And every year, we get a little better at it.
Gratitude doesn’t ask us to settle. It simply strengthens our foundation. When we know what we already have, confidence becomes natural. It becomes calm, steady, and sustainable.
Confidence begins with gratitude.
At Mud Pies, we help children build real confidence and express themselves with clarity.
Confidence comes first — and from there expressive English follows.
These three videos extend this month’s confidence theme:
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